You want to woo a girl but you don’t know how. You don’t know what she likes. You don’t know whether you’ll do the right things. No worries, I want to share with you my top 10 personal steps for you try in wooing a girl, turning your friendship into something special.

1. It’s the little things that matter. Sometimes, you don’t have to woo her with a fancy and extravagant dinner. Girls are more sentimental and they appreciate guys who pay extra attention to them by doing the little things that they like. You can give her a picture frame with your picture together so she can hang it in her room or put it on her work desk. It shows you care and know in detail what she likes. Or take her on a “mini adventure” driving to all the spots you’ve been to either on dates or on one of those hanging-out moments. I mean, I’m speaking from a low-maintenance girl’s point of view. A little creativity on your part will go a long way. Do something that shows how much you know her - personality wise - and show how detailed you can be. But if your girlfriend is high-maint., then I guess you’re just gonna have to take her shopping.

2. Make the effort. Pick her up on your dates. Make that extra drive. Remember, you want to be with her so you have to prove to her why she wants to take time out of her day to hang out with you. She can go out with other guys - why would she pick you? Much like a job interview. I’ve once dated a guy who always complained about driving so far to pick me up and he wanted me to “meet him half way” driving to LA - like picking a central point and somehow, park his or my car and take the other’s car. That is just ridiculous. Needless to say, he can meet his own ass half way cuz I dumped him.

3. Just be direct. If you like her, just tell her. It can’t get any simpler than that. Better to find out now than keep wondering to yourself if there’s ever going to be a chance.

4. Be a gentleman. Open the doors, pulling a chair for her at dinner table, send her flowers, etc. Not all the time, but enough to surprise her. Flowers never get old, even though I’m a realistic person who would rather receive something I can use than flowers that will die in a week; but deep down, flowers still bring a smile to my face.

5. Lunch at work. Well, if you work close enough to her work, swinging by to take her out to lunch will show her that you’re missing her and want to spend time with her as much as you can. Do it even if you work a little farther. That will mean something more to her.

6. Be courteous. My worst pet peeve is the guy’s “wandering eyes” - checking out and complimenting other chicks, either on the street or on TV - in my presence. Yes, I understand guys are more visual but must you do it in front of us? It’s not that I’m not confident in myself, but it’s like the unwritten rule - like table manners. There’s no rule book that says you must behave this or that way, but it’s a common courtesy that you should know. You’d rarely hear a girl say “Yeah, I’d do her too” to her boyfriend. Sometimes I would say that just to be “funny haha” but it kinda bugs. A girl doesn’t need her man to do a lot of things for her, but it’s the small things that she wishes he won’t do - and this is one of them. It’s all out of respect for your woman.

7. Cook for her. Even if you don’t know how, but she will appreciate the effort and if she’s a cool person, she will love you more for it. It’s not the end of the world. So if the crap you made gets burnt, you two will just have a good laugh over it.

8. Surprise her. And I don’t mean ordering something online and delivering it to her work. That’s too easy. Well, that would be nice, but I’m talking about the little gestures that you do that will melt her heart. Like if you’re just walking around on your night out, just stop her out of the blue and give her a hug or a peck on her head. Trust me, I’m giving you insights from a girl’s perspective. What more could you want?

9. Call her when she least expects it. Take 2 minutes out of your work day, pick up the phone, call her and say “I’m thinking about you” if you’re ‘just dating’ or “I love you” if you’re in a relationship. Whatever stress she’s going through at work, just silly words like that can go a long way.

10. Small gifts, big smiles. Buy her little gifts every now and then. Nothing that puts a hole in your wallet. Just small, simple gifts that remind you of her or complements that particular personality trait or body feature that you love most about her. Like if she likes to read books, get her the latest copy by her most favorite author. Or if you love her hair, get her a little hair pin, let it be a butterfly or whatever her favorite animal is. Trust me, regardless of whether she likes it, she will melt like a marsh-mallow over the bonfire!