Are you nervous about going on your first date ever with that cute girl you’ve finally conjured up all your guts to ask out? Are you almost pretty confident that things will go sour during the date? Well, I thought I’d help you out by pointing out a few things you should try to avoid on a first date.
- Don’t be late. That’s a given. Bad impression.
- Pick her up. None of that “I’ll meet you at the restaurant.” It will make you look really cheap.
- Don’t talk about your past relationships during dinner too much unless asked. Even when asked, try to give short versions, keeping it 2-3 sentences long. You don’t want to give the girl too much to think about what kind of boyfriend you’d turn out to be.
- Don’t talk too much. Instead, give her all the attention in the world by asking casual questions about herself.
- Don’t try to be funny. If you’re funny by nature, fine. But she will know if you’re trying too hard to make jokes that she may not find very funny. Guys have the tendency to make jokes when they’re nervous. So don’t.
- Don’t make jokes about her. She may be a sensitive person. You don’t know her too well - not yet anyway, so there’s a level of respect you need to maintain. If a few months down the road she’s your girlfriend, then maybe you can, but not on the first date.
- Don’t check out other girls. Not very tasteful. Every girl wants to be the only beautiful girl in the room. It’s true! Click for more..
- Don’t talk about yourself too much. No one likes a self-centered guy. Try to balance between telling her a little bit about yourself as well as asking her to tell you what she’s like.
- Throw in a few simple compliments here and there without sounding obsessive. Something like “The dress looks nice on you” but not “The jade necklace really brings out the color of your eyes.” Really cheesy.
- Keep it casual. Don’t push your luck by hinting if she wants to be your girlfriend already. Girls don’t like clingy guys just like how guys don’t like clingy girls.
- Don’t talk about sex. It’s a touchy subject. All girls know it’s on the guy’s mind 24/7 so don’t make her think you’re one of those guys only interested in just sex.
- Make sure to say a positive thing or two about yourself. “I go to the museum every now and then..” or “I visit my grandmother every other Sunday and take her dogs for a walk.” She’ll see that you are cultured and family-oriented. It’ll make her feel more comfortable with you.
- Listen to her as she talks, so you can pick up a few things here and there that she likes. Then gear your conversation towards those subjects. For example: if she says, “I love going to the beach on the weekends.” You can reply with, “Hey that’s great! My brother’s got a boat that I can take you on some time, if that’s OK with you.”
I had to respond to this one. If I was a man I would run so fast from this type of woman guys that it would not matter her thirteen point test. If you have to pass a test or impress a woman for her to like you, than that is generally a pretty shallow woman. It is just a good for a woman to pick a man up for the first date as it is ok for a woman to be fashionably late for a date, yet its not cool for a man? Promptness is a general courtesy that should be given to every one.
Guys, just find a woman you can be yourself with and honest with, because that is who she is going to have to live with if you end up in a relationship, don’t pretend to be someone you are not to impress a woman. I find most down to earth woman have no such expectations from their man other than mutual respect. Men in the USA tend to be a bit more posessive and still protective, lighten up guys its the 21st Century and we are all humans equal.
So to all men and woman, just be yourselves and remember in order to meet someone you actually have to leave your house and go into public and talk to people you have never met before in most cases. Once you get past that fear of meeting new people, you can become more comfortable at being yourself when talking to someone you have interest in. Most woman I know have already noticed and picked out their potential interests not long after entering a social environment just not as obvious as men are.
So remember, do not follow any set of rules for a better relationship, just try being honest to each other and communicate, if your spouse or lover is not also your best friend than maybe this is not your true love?
This is just one males opinion.