Guys - do you ever think and ask yourself “Am I a ladies’ man?” or “Am I just a total dating disaster?” Ever wonder why that girl never called you back after the first date? Or even picked up your phone calls? Did that happen several times? No, she didn’t lose her phone nor did she move out of state. She just simply didn’t like you all that much. So you’re wondering - what went wrong? You basically did everything “right” - at least you thought.
Well, let’s rewind some three or four dates back, and ask yourself these questions:
- Do you use your date’s name often during conversation?
- Do you maintain eye contact?
- Do you compliment her often (in a genuine, not tacky, way)?
- Do you ask her a lot of open-ended questions?
- Do you touch her when you’re talking?
- Do you call her when you say you will?
- Do you avoid ordering messy foods for the first few dates?
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- Do you make sure your breath is always fresh?
- Do you get off the other line when she calls?
- Do you take the time to learn how to please her sexually?
- Do you phone or email her just to say “hi”?
- Do you make sure your flat is tidy before she comes over?
- Do you offer to cook dinner for her?
- Do you bring her little, thoughtful gifts?
- Do you make sure to practice good hygiene?
- Do you truly listen (potentially the most powerful aphrodisiac) when she talks?
- Do you verbally - and clearly - let her know you fancy her?
- Do you plan nights out for the two of you?
- Do you raise or avoid issues on which she might have a strong opinion (i.e. political, social)?
If you answer “No” to most of these questions, you are probably a dating disaster and you have little idea what a woman wants. You are quite clueless and stand very little chance of getting a girlfriend. But fear not, practice makes perfect. Just keep in mind - Women can easily be pleased at the most simple things in life. That’s not the same as “going cheap” on dates and trips. But sometimes, all it takes is a phone call to her work to let her know you’re thinking about her without appearing to be a player.
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I think this advice goes both ways and is good for both woman as well as men to follow. A woman should follow the same rules as she suggests the guys, otherwise one will simply become a slave to the other instead a true equal. Treat people and especially your significant other the same way you would want to be treated granting you are not a masochist or something similar. Communication and honesty to me between both parties heterosexual or not without this you cannot build a strong foundation to build upon.
I just think it’s crapy to have rules for dates, you have to do whatever you please, and to be real… if not, the girl will run after the first “normal behaviour”